Couples Therapy
Feeling exhausted, alienated, and pessimistic about your relationship?
Having “rinse and repeat” arguments over ridiculously insignificant issues?
Being “right” more important than listening to each other’s concerns/feelings?
Small disagreements quickly escalate into blow-ups with “kitchen-sinking”?
Couples come to see me for help with a range of relationship issues, including communication problems, conflict resolution, trust and infidelity, intimacy and connection, life transitions, disagreements over financial responsibilities, differences in core values, beliefs, or life goals, parenting challenges, and mental health issues.
I offer a guiding hand to couples who are grappling with their connection. When couples first step into my office, they often carry the weight of doubt about the possibility of their relationship recovering and healing. They yearn to be truly understood by their partner, but the question of whether that is even possible lingers. The desire for closeness is often met with the fear of vulnerability and potential for being hurt.
In my practice, I am dedicated to fostering a therapeutic environment that is safe and nurturing. I maintain a delicate balance of neutrality, providing empathic understanding to each partner’s emotional pain in the couple’s conflict. I encourage the couple to consider releasing their grip on right/wrong, winners/losers in their arguments and instead embrace the possibility that there are equally valid subjective realities for each partner.
Establishing therapeutic trust with each partner is essential for them to become receptive to my suggestions for making changes/adjustments without feeling like I am taking their partner's side. I welcome feedback whenever a partner feels unsafe, unheard, or misunderstood by me.
Through therapy with me, couples are encouraged to become curious about how their early attachment needs and vulnerabilities influence their attachment as adults. They become more aware of ways they may be unwittingly pushing their partner away when they seek love, understanding, and acceptance from each other.
As the therapy progresses, couples show more willingness to give each other the benefit of the doubt and demonstrate genuine empathy and understanding for each other’s concerns, even if they don’t agree with how their partner views the situation. As a trusting foundation is established, partners become willing to experiment with being open and vulnerable in expressing emotional needs and in making behavioral adjustments.
Let's embark on this journey together towards healing, reconnection, and improved well-being. Together, we will navigate your challenges and empower you to live a life that aligns with your aspirations.
Schedule a session with me to take the first step towards a happier, more fulfilling life.